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The transformative power of bringing flowers to Mayanei Hayeshua’s psychiatric wards
For several years, Professor Rael Strous, director of Mayanei Hayeshua’s Mental Health Center, has decried the fact that visitors to psychiatric wards in Israel do not bring bouquets of flowers. He has often shared his pain that patients in psychiatric wards are not treated in the same way as patients in the other hospital wards. According to Professor Strous, these “invisible patients” in psychiatric wards are a symptom of the lingering stigma of mental illness.
“Flowers, as an expression of therapeutic and environmental support, add so much encouragement, light and atmosphere in hospital wards,” says Professor Strous. “Everyone involved in the medical system recognises this. A fundamental and revolutionary change is required in how we deal with mental health.”
A group of Tel Aviv University medical students who have been attending Professor Strous’ lectures have absorbed his message about the lack of flowers, and they came up with an exciting and practical initiative. Aided by a crowdfunding campaign among fellow students at the University, these medical students personally distribute flowers to all the patients in Mayanei Hayeshua’s psychiatry wards every Friday.
Thanks to the inspiring words and sensitive vision of their lecturer and mentor, Professor Strous, the new generation of doctors being trained at Mayanei Hayeshua is being guided by their hearts and their souls. They are learning the important holistic principle that mental patients are human beings, who deserve the same respect as other patients. The weekly bouquets of therapeutic flowers are a wonderful expression of this vision.
Arab physician brings tallit-wrapped Torah scroll to Coronavirus Department
Many people at Mayanei Hayeshua stopped and stared at the unexpected sight of Arab physician Dr Abed Zehalka, who has worked in the hopital’s ICU for several years, delivering a tallit-clad Torah scroll to the Cronavirus Department while wearing full protective garb. Ironically, the Coronavirus Department is the only location in Israel where patients can pray in a minyan (quorum), since all the worshippers have already been infected with the virus.
Dr Zehalka responded to the emotional reaction of patients. “Carrying the Torah scroll into the ward was a moving experience for me. The fact that I am part of the hospital, of the patients, of the hospital’s traditions, strengthens the bond even more. I too am a man of faith. I see a strong connection between faith and successful treatment. I come across patients who simply give up. But I also come across patients who were in a very serious condition, who coped exceptionally well with the disease, and who recuperated.”
Senior nurse Michal Ben-Dov agrees that the ability to pray with Torah scroll gives added meaning and reassurance to patients, and assists their healing. “Many of our patients are accustomed to praying every day. In this very complex reality, the Torah scroll gives them extra strength.”
Yong girl arrived in life-threatening condition and diagnosed with Diabetes
An eight-year-old girl arrived at Mayanei Hayeshua’s Pediatric Emergency Room in an extremely serious condition, displaying advanced symptoms of pediatric diabetes. The ER staff worked on her painstakingly until she was stable enough to move to the Isolation Ward of our Pediatric Intensive Care Unit. The child’s condition remained life-threatening but the dedicated professional staff in the PICU fought tirelessly, and after a prolonged period of hospitalization, the patient steadily improved and eventually her situation became more balanced and stabilized until she was completely out of danger.
Toddler cured and discharged from PICU
A two-year-old boy with a complicated medical history was rushed to Mayanei Hayeshua’s Pediatric Emergency Room suffering from high fever and acute stomach pains. Extensive examination discovered the toddler was suffering from an abscess in the abdomen.
To avoid complex invasive surgery on such a young child, he was moved to our Pediatric Intensive Care Unit where our expert physicians used an innovative non-invasive treatment method. The results were excellent and after several days the young patient was discharged with his happy and grateful parents.
The story of ‘Y’ – a miraculous return to life
When ‘Y’ was hospitalized in the Eating Disorders Unit of Mayanei Hayeshua, she was desperately ill – physically and emotionally. She was horribly emaciated. She was so weak that she could barely lift herself up. Most frightening of all, ‘Y’, a young teenager, had completely given up on herself. She had lost the will to live. She had no desire to live. She simply lay in her bed for hours on end, totally apathetic to everything and everyone. Before ‘Y’ came to MH she tried to harm herself in any possible way. Her goal had been to do away with herself. Y’s desire to end her own life continued to manifest itself during the early stages of her MH hospitalization. She was so desperate to end it all that she actually tried to electrocute herself.
Over the course of time, key variables underlying ‘Y’s illness began to emerge. ‘Y’ had come from a very difficult home environment. Her eating disorder issues both began and grew, to a great extent, because of the tense family dynamics coupled with ‘careless’ parenting. As a result, ‘Y’ was very severely damaged emotionally when she finally came to MH. In the early days of her hospitalization, there was real concern among the professional Staff – doctors, nurses, therapists – that ‘Y’ might be beyond rehabilitation. Despite acknowledging this as a possibility however, the MH Staff absolutely did not give up. Quite the contrary. They rose to the challenge and indeed their efforts began to pay off. Through the extensive therapies and consistently loving care she received at MH, gradually – very gradually – ‘Y’ started to show signs of wanting to return to life. There was a real breakthrough. ‘Y’ began to eat again resulting in some weight gain. She talked about wanting to resume her studies so she could ‘catch up’ to her peers. While very encouraging however, ‘Y’s progress was very far from a straight line.
Thanks to the high level vigilance and close monitoring on the part of the Eating Disorders Unit Staff, it became apparent that each time ‘Y’ went back to her family for a few days, the backsliding was quite serious. She returned to MH both apathetic and very resistant to eating. ‘Y’s desire to ‘come back to life’ had to some degree dissipated in the few days she spent with her family. The environment in her home, tense and negative, was the opposite of the warm, loving and caring approach that had caused ‘Y’ to start to recover her desire to live, to rejoin the human race. Nevertheless, along with ‘undoing’ the negativity of home visits, the Staff helped ‘Y’ move forward. In fact, ‘Y’s progress has been nothing short of extraordinary.
Very recently, it was decided that ‘Y’ was really ready to move on. Physically, she’s gained a sufficient amount of weight to be deemed ‘healthy’. Emotionally however is where the change in ‘Y’ is indeed miraculous. Her apathy has changed to enthusiasm. Her desire to do away with herself has morphed into a zest for life. ‘Y’ has big dreams for herself. She wants to experience all that she’s missed. ‘Y’ has ‘chosen life’. She wants to complete her studies and move on with her life. While in the early days at MH, there was real doubt that ‘Y’ could be saved, the Professionals now proudly and – justifiably with ‘nachas’ – describe ‘Y’ as ‘A Real Success Story’.
On her last day at MH, a party was held for ‘Y’. The party was not about saying ‘Good Bye’. It was about celebrating ‘Y’s miraculous return to life. Everyone, the Staff as well as the other girls in the Unit, with tears of joys in their eyes, shared hugs and good wishes. ‘Y’ was discharged to a ‘half-way’ home in Jerusalem with professional and caring supervision since her family home is simply not a viable option. As she excitedly and happily gets back into life, ‘Y’ will come for periodic follow-up care at MH to help ensure that from her very dark past, ‘Y’ is headed toward a bright future.
The story of ‘M’ – an eyewitness report of a ‘wow’ experience
My recent visit to MAYANEI HAYESHUA Eating Disorders Unit can be described as nothing short of extraordinary. I was part of a truly ‘WOW’ – transformational experience. I met a young woman – let’s call her ‘M’ to protect her privacy – who has been an in-patient in this program for just over a year. When I arrived with Chaim Fachler (MAYANEI HAYESHUA’s International Director of Development), ‘M’ was anxiously waiting to speak with him. Although she’s nearly 21 years old, my immediate impression – ‘M’ was a young – 14 or 15 year old – teenager. Her adolescent slenderness coupled with her wide-eyed, highly exuberant, ‘perpetual motion’ demeanor made her seem much younger then she actually is. ‘M’ looked and in some ways acted as if she is on the cusp on adulthood rather than being virtually an adult. Apparently, several days earlier, during her visit with her parents, ‘M’ made the decision that she wanted to start to ‘give back to MAYANEI HAYESHUA’ for all that happened to her in the Eating Disorders program. During the course of this visit, Chaim was also on the floor and when ‘M’ understood his role in the hospital she told him she wanted to ‘do something very meaningful’ so that MAYANEI HAYESHUA could help other young people in the same way they are helping her’. Chaim told her he’d be back in a few days and continue this conversation.
Rolling tape forward, a few days later, I entered the Eating Disorders Unit with Chaim. As soon as ‘M’ spotted him she became very excited. She told him (and the Staff confirmed) she’d been waiting to speak with him about how she could help fundraise for MAYANEI HAYESHUA. Very interestingly, when Chaim introduced me to ‘M’ as a ‘fellow American’ who had also made Aliyah fairly recently, ‘M’ was very comfortable with the idea that I would hear all that she had to say. This is where the ‘WOW’ factor started to kick in. It was lunchtime in an Eating Disorders Unit – in and of itself – a happening. ‘M’ apologized for being the only one eating but said – ‘it’s lunchtime. I’m hungry. I hope it’s OK that I’m eating and you’re not’. The amazing ramifications of her statement did not escape me. Until fairly recently, this was a young woman who was repulsed by the idea of eating. She had done everything in her power to avoid eating or else somehow rid her body of the calories she had ingested. Now ‘M’ says ‘I’m hungry’. Amazing! Wow! As she enthusiastically ate a bowl of (dry) crunchy American cereal and sipped milk through a straw she proceeded to tell her story.
‘M’ is the fifth of twelve children. She grew up in a Charedi family in the New York Metro area. Approximately at the onset of adolescence or even a bit before, ‘M’ recalls wanting to die. She made serious suicide attempts. As she ate her cereal and sipped her milk, ‘M’, in a fairly matter of fact manner, talked about cutting herself, stabbing herself with anything that might penetrate and cause harm – whether knives or pencils or any sharp objects. ‘M’ talked of the ‘terrible things I did to my parents and to my siblings’ and then added ‘they kept on loving me. I don’t know why but they kept on loving me’. ‘M’ remembered ‘throwing things to really hurt my parents’, her verbal abuse and ‘I locked myself in my room for hours and hours while my parents and siblings kept begging me not to hurt myself…They kept loving me and I couldn’t understand why’. ‘M’ did her best to ‘never eat anything’ but if she did, apparently her way of dealing with food was primarily to do excessive exercise. She would literally run back and forth and jump up and down for hours and hours.
‘M’ talked about her parents taking her to ‘doctors’ and to ‘programs’ but nothing changed the way she felt about herself – about being better off dead – or the way she behaved. At some point, ‘M’s parents made the decision to move to Israel in the hopes of finding treatment that could effectively treat their beloved daughter. Unfortunately (perhaps predictably), after her parents took her and her unmarried siblings to Israel, ‘M’’s behavior became even more overtly hostile and self abusing. ‘M’ recalls screaming at her father and telling him how much she hated him and how she wished he would die. She also recalls being more and more anxious to find ways to kill herself. On one of the last occasions before she entered the brand new MAYANEI HAYESHUA Eating Disorders Unit, M swallowed enough pills to render herself unconcscious. She was taken to a very well known Jerusalem Medical Center with ‘supposedly the best psychiatriatic staff in Israel’. ‘M’ described how after she regained consciousness ‘they kept me for a few more days, until my numbers were stable and then they sent me home.’ ‘M’ continued to say ‘obviously they didn’t care at all about me. All they cared about was that my lab numbers were good enough for me to go home so they had an available bed for somebody else’.
‘M’ didn’t clarify how she initally came to the MAYANEI HAYESHUA Eating Disorder Unit. Noting however that she’s been in-patient for nearly two years – virtually since the inception of the Unit’s existence, it’s been a long road. Bottom-line however, ‘M’ has clearly made amazing progress. In her own words, ‘it took time but every so often I would wake up with new very clear and important thoughts’ . One especially ‘important thought’ ‘M’ expressed – literally:
One day I realized, the MAYANEI HAYESHUA Staff cares much more about me than I care about myself’.
As ‘M’ describes it , this was a breakthrough insight. She never before had this feeling. She started to believe, little by little, ‘there’s something about me that’s worthwhile’ and this is why ‘my parents and my siblings continued to love me’. The consistently caring attitude of the MAYANEI HAYESHUA staff surrounding every aspect of treatment was a big part of what allowed ‘M’ to become consciously accepting of the fact that ‘something terrible that happened to me when I was about 8 years old and this is why I was so afraid of and hated all men, including my father.’ It is the consistently caring attitude of the MAYANEI HAYESHUA staff which is at the root of why ‘M’ expresses the desire to ‘not hurt myself anymore – to do all that it takes to make myself physically and emotionally strong’. So too, apparently the consistently caring attitude of the MAYANEI HAYESHUA staff is of critical importance as to why ‘M’ is developing a positive sense of self-esteem and allows herself to believe that a positive future lies ahead for her. Perhaps most importantly, ‘M’ understands she has more to do before she re-enters the ‘real world’ but she attributes her new found belief in herself and her desire to ‘do good things’ for her family and for the world to the consistently caring treatment she has received in the MAYANEI HAYESHUA Eating Disorders Program.